One other thing in regard to power exchange and giving power to others....when people are mean to you, or accuse you, or try to slander your reputation, if you fight back and defend yourself and try to explain yourself, it is like you then give the mean person the power. I don't mean, let people abuse you, but I think there is a way to handle it, where you keep the moral high ground, and the other person looks like a dribbling fool.
This is by no means easy and I have to keep working at it.
So the old heiffer from last year who gave me such grief, called me a bully, said I knew nothing about business etc etc...and I didn't chuck a nana at her, I didn't defend myself by saying " I do know how to run a business ", because then I would have been giving her accusations credence.
I simply let her rant, 'til she ran out of steam and asked her politely if she had finished, because I had lots to be doing. I said I wasn't going to justify myself to her, I believed in what I was doing and that was the end of it.
Now I was violently angry inside, I do not like confrontation, but I also believe in my authentic self and knew that I did not have to defend myself.
So six months later, she is angry and bitter ( still ) and my business is doing better than ever, with a fabulous, caring, highly skilled replacement.
I won't say it was easy, at the time I needed a little " pick me up ", but I felt I did and said what I had to. I feel like I dealt with it ok.
